• wipicoco posted an update in the group Group logo of ALCOHOLALCOHOL 5 months, 1 week ago

    Hi there, I could use some input on my life and how I’m getting through it. My name’s Pierce. I’m currently a 3rd year college student, turned 21 earlier this year, and I’ve learned well how to cope with negative experiences in my life. My family has an extensive history of use and abuse of both alcohol and tobacco. My grandfather was a terrible alcoholic, the other smoked cigars, and my parents each do both while being very functional members of society (though friday nights get wacky; I turn into the parent those nights.) I worry about them, but moreso myself. Since I’ve turned 21, I’ve been drinking more and more often. I would not say I’m addicted, but rather I’m in the beginning stages of it and drink more and more often. It’s what my parents do, all my friends, and it seems to be just normal at my age. But I don’t want to be like my parents. I see the toll it has taken. I don’t want to repeat the cycle. Yet, when I say I should lay off a night or two, I just seem to turn to it. I would rather smoke weed, but I just can’t afford it right now. It’s so much easier to walk 2 blocks for a few tall boys. It doesn’t matter what; I just need something to numb myself. Or rather, to look forward to after a day of monotony. I’ve seen what it can do and know the dangers I am flirting with, yet when it’s all I look forward and in all my social groups, I don’t know how to ease up. It’s becoming a daily ritual. And it only enables my nicotine (vape) addiction, which is so costly I’m spending money I don’t have. Any advice/thoughts/experiences would be very welcome. Thank you.

    • Hi there; I have the same problem of trying to find something replace alcohol with. Though I think the answer for inner problems are inside and not found by looking for a solution outside ourselves. My advice is to get help before it gets to be a real problem. I waited 20 years and ended up in a shit storm that was my bottom to stop…

      • Alcohol can be really though to quit; plus it s so easily available and socially acceptable in our society…I know that pain…

        • If you wait too long, alcohol withdrawals are really scary; one can even die from it.

          • You’re right, I just don’t know what to do because it’s literally in every social circle I am a part of. Even family. And I just moved in to my own place so I’ve been lonely already. I can’t just avoid it or I’ll have no one left to hang out with, which is not good for me I need to be with others or I get depressed and anxious

            • Thank you for the advice I really appreciate it. I recommend pot if you can get a hold of it but I wouldn’t just replace it. Pot can be just as life destroying if you abuse it. If I can afford it, I try my best to only use it as a reward for getting through a long day. I have friends who do it all day and night, and it really can draw you in and consume your life. If you dont think that will work out, maybe find something else you love and only reward yourself when you feel it is earned, like a favorite dessert or a video game you like. It’s not as glamorous, but with will power I believe we all can make it work

            • I use pot and kratom for the cravings, but like you said I dont want to really replace it but its a temporary solution, until I deal with the real reasons for my cravings which are inside myself…

            • Meditation and music really help me also…