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  • volant posted an update in the group Group logo of MethamphetamineMethamphetamine 4 months ago

    So, I’ve worked my own recovery for essentially co-dependency. Intellectually, I know why my friend would stop speaking to me in active addiction. Still, can you guys share your experiences of sort of ”choosing” unhealthy relationships over healthy ones?

    • Lately I’m not sure if I’m codependent or have BPD. I seem to be the unhealthy personality type codependents are attracted to.

    • That’s an interesting perspective. Thank you for that.

  • volant posted an update in the group Group logo of MethamphetamineMethamphetamine 7 months, 4 weeks ago

    I was wondering if you guys could help me understand. My best friend relapsed. Hard. He’s completely paranoid and out of it, and is accusing me of going through his emails. (I was married to an addict I’ve got a P.I. past but I’m working my own steps really hard!) He is just a couple of weeks from being completely off parole for the first time in…[Read more]

    • Some of us just sabotage ourselves when things start going too good unfortunately. Good luck with your recovery, hope your friend gets a handle on it.

    • I understand relapses. My girl is on the verge of being revoked on her parole, which she’s only 6 months away from being off of. It’s hard. We want the best and wish we can make it happen. But it has to come from them. Our efforts are useless unless they want to make the effort. God Bless you and put it in God’s hands.

      • Amen. Can be hard but its what i had to do .. Friend apx 1 month clean after being in very deep for apx 9 months use. Progressed to exessive daily use all day everyday… Had to let go . soon after he wanted help.. Happy to have him back.. Happy to be here for him. Happy hes choosing not to use

    • Thanks, @channelingfreya. It’s hard to watch.

      I hear you, @bigtoebaldass. Part of my recovery is getting out of the way, which sucks. I want to fix it all, but I can’t. Only he can.

      Love to you both!

    • Getting out of the way as super hard, if not impossible. I question myself if I’m an answer or refuge to this woman I’m deeply in love with. You wanna help but you know you need to be absent to let them want to ‘own’ their addiction and you can’t do both. When watching them hurt themselves breaks your heart is what we hate and we just have to let…[Read more]

    • I completely agree and totally get what you mean.

    • @mishell thank you for replying. I appreciate it and I think I needed that reminder today. 🙂

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