• jasmyn007 posted an update in the group Group logo of Loved Ones of AddictsLoved Ones of Addicts 3 months, 3 weeks ago

    Hello, I’m 24 y/o from Australia and I have a beautiful partner I have been with for 6 and a half years. About 4 months ago he admitted he has a drug addiction with ice. When he told me I didn’t really know how to act and felt very numb, a few weeks passed and he had a breakdown wanting to quit and it was such a relief. He told his mum and she gave him some great advice and after a few weeks he started feeling great. A few days ago I found out he’s back on it and I have spiraled into a depression from it, wondering so many things and if I leave will it be better and help him change. He is a lot different about it and understands it’s bad but says he has it “under control and moderation is key”. Everyday he tells me something different and I’m trying to be so strong for him but I’m so young and never had to deal with this it’s a huge weight on my shoulders. His dad is also a ice user and he hangs around him so much, so I feel it’s even worse of a situation because it’s a vicious cycle until he decides his dad is toxic and to stay away. I haven’t told anyone and decided maybe it is something I should do? I understand fully that I can’t force someone who doesn’t think there’s a problem to seek help, but I also feel like I can’t do nothing about it. I feel like telling him mum would be beneficial for him. Just some advice on anyone who’s in the same situation as me or has been would be nice 🙂

    • You are very smart in the way ur handling this. First im sorry. This is a horrible drug to see someone be taken over by. Meth messes w ur brain so bad that soon as the person fights for their life it fights to keep tricking the person into thinking they need it and it will help them justify using 3 seconds after knowing they have to stop. Its crucial he isnt around it. And in my experience.. Change only happened after i left.. He lost a lot ..had to deal w the consequences of the mess he made for himself. I was there for him when he needed to stop. The faster they have to deal w the life they create on their own. The quicker yes.. Their life will probably fall apart. But thats usually when they find it in them to fight harder. On meth u will lie justify and hurt. Its not that they dont care.. But it kinda is too.. Its horrible .. There is hope but nothing u can do to stop him. Be careful of lies, always love from afar.. If telling his mum will help him hit bottom .. Thats what i did…

      • Ya, same on the reverse. When my ex left me it was the first time I took sobriety serious enough to be honest.

        • He’s been very honest with me which I’m so greatful for because I said I didn’t want lies. His emotions just seem so over the place and he doesn’t care which is so hard to see because he’s a caring person. He suffers depression and anxiety which lead him down this path. He has said he will keep seeing a psychologist, not for the meth but for the depression and anxiety. I just hope if he can get to the root of that then sobriety might be easier? Not sure but right now I can only take it day by day. Thanks for the advice it really does help knowing I’m not alone

          • Sorry for the absence. How are you doing.. Cant answer that really. I think if he doesnt want to stop right now he wont.. Maybe if hes seeing a psychologist it may help him to begin to fight, but meth is too strong to beat if u dont wanna fight it unfortunately..

            • Hey mishell, psychologist has actually helped a lot. He’s been speaking of quitting for a while now but last night decided to take the first step to actually do it and get rid of anything associated with it. Told his dad he can’t be around him anymore and has actually taken his car to his mums so he doesn’t have access to drive. Has slept most of the day but all we can do is take 1 step at a time. It’s going to be a rough journey but I know he is strong enough to get through it 🙂 thanks for checking in