A group for people who love someone who struggles with addiction to network and support each other.

  • jefffraser posted an update in the group Group logo of Loved Ones of AddictsLoved Ones of Addicts 6 days, 23 hours ago

    I really love my partner but it’s an exhaustive cycle to be with them. Their poison of choice is meth. But when that runs out its alcohol and any mix of my prescriptions they can get to. ( I have since locked them up) They’re bipolar and are not managed medically. They will snort wellbutrin, klonopin, gabapentin trazadone and ativan. I’m…[Read more]

  • Harli Bee posted an update in the group Group logo of Loved Ones of AddictsLoved Ones of Addicts 2 months, 3 weeks ago

    My friend has been seeing this man for around 8 months, recently he disappeared completely for around 30 days. He resurfaced again just a few days ago and shared the news that he’d been in rehab for a serious opioid addiction. He’s talked to my friend some, but he’s been fairly distant from her. She knew he’d had a history of drug use but had no…[Read more]

  • Owlett87 posted an update in the group Group logo of Loved Ones of AddictsLoved Ones of Addicts 3 months ago

    Hi everyone. I’m a recovering addict but have been struggling with porn addiction lately. My drug was/is alcohol. My codependency issues caused a lot of heart ache. I also suffer from PTSD. The man I married may have a pain/adhd medication abuse problem. He is also a marine that suffers from chronic severe pain and PTSD. Our house is unstable.…[Read more]

    • The only thing you can do for now is focus on your own recovery journey. The only life you have control over is yours.
      You can talk to him for sure. But be aware that you may lose energy by trying to change your husband’s thoughts about his own decisions, even if they are affecting you in a negative way.
      Hope things get better for you, big hugs.

  • queto posted an update in the group Group logo of Loved Ones of AddictsLoved Ones of Addicts 3 months, 2 weeks ago

    This is sort of long, but I haven’t been able to find a story similar enough for advice. I was wondering if someone could give advice or tell me if I am wrong for doing something.

    Here’s the story. I met this guy (not looking for a significant other), he’s 25-yrs-old. I am 22 yrs old, and finishing my last semester in college. Anyways, I have…[Read more]

  • jasmyn007 posted an update in the group Group logo of Loved Ones of AddictsLoved Ones of Addicts 4 months, 3 weeks ago

    Hello, I’m 24 y/o from Australia and I have a beautiful partner I have been with for 6 and a half years. About 4 months ago he admitted he has a drug addiction with ice. When he told me I didn’t really know how to act and felt very numb, a few weeks passed and he had a breakdown wanting to quit and it was such a relief. He told his mum and she gav…[Read more]

    • You are very smart in the way ur handling this. First im sorry. This is a horrible drug to see someone be taken over by. Meth messes w ur brain so bad that soon as the person fights for their life it fights to keep tricking the person into thinking they need it and it will help them justify using 3 seconds after knowing they have to stop. Its…[Read more]

      • Ya, same on the reverse. When my ex left me it was the first time I took sobriety serious enough to be honest.

        • He’s been very honest with me which I’m so greatful for because I said I didn’t want lies. His emotions just seem so over the place and he doesn’t care which is so hard to see because he’s a caring person. He suffers depression and anxiety which lead him down this path. He has said he will keep seeing a psychologist, not for the meth but for the d…[Read more]

          • Sorry for the absence. How are you doing.. Cant answer that really. I think if he doesnt want to stop right now he wont.. Maybe if hes seeing a psychologist it may help him to begin to fight, but meth is too strong to beat if u dont wanna fight it unfortunately..

            • Hey mishell, psychologist has actually helped a lot. He’s been speaking of quitting for a while now but last night decided to take the first step to actually do it and get rid of anything associated with it. Told his dad he can’t be around him anymore and has actually taken his car to his mums so he doesn’t have access to drive. Has slept most…[Read more]

  • Piisim posted an update in the group Group logo of Loved Ones of AddictsLoved Ones of Addicts 5 months, 2 weeks ago

    I never fully spoke upon the issues of my sister and her addiction. When it’s brought I end up e joking about it and acting like it’s not my problem. However many people don’t know that growing up I used to wish the addiction onto me, it killed me seeing my nephews aching for a mother to love and support them properly. I was probably one of the f…[Read more]

    • Wow… Thats ruff 🙁
      Meth has taken her away from yous and the strength it takes to accept that is unbearable.. U are soooo strong and i hate the pain i know u have.
      Ur doing everything right..i feel for ur parents.
      They should take her kids in but if actively using.. She should not be there. . the more she is enabled in anyway.. The longer…[Read more]

    • Wow, you put into words what my youngest son is probably feeling about his older brother – same issue but ages are 20 and 17.

      It is hard to think he is probably suffering the same as you. But I greatly appreciate your words as my youngest son doesn’t talk about it.

      It seems we just keep mourning the loss of a living person. I really connected…[Read more]

  • Bp4 posted an update in the group Group logo of Loved Ones of AddictsLoved Ones of Addicts 5 months, 2 weeks ago

    Hi all, I’m the mom of a young adult daughter who is in love with an addict. I feel the loss and the grief over everything she is sacrificing for him, as if she were an addict, herself. I have had to ask her to move out because of his behavior when we have taken him in and his refusal to get clean. He is her first real boyfriend and first love.

    • Oh boy thats ruff. I can picture my mother saying this about me in a way if she was alive… She could be going down a bumpy road that will make her life alot harder then life can already be… Its hard to see this .. She may even join in eventually if hasnt already. Watch for changes in her. Know u can love her and support her but be very clear…[Read more]

      • Thank you. Right now she won’t even listen to women who have been there. She has put up a wall and is convinced it will e different for her. I have to believe she is using as well, because I can’t see how she could even still be attracted to what he’s become. When she met and fell for him he was sober (in a two year program for heroin and…[Read more]

  • Octain posted an update in the group Group logo of Loved Ones of AddictsLoved Ones of Addicts 5 months, 2 weeks ago

    I too am the father of an addicted son. He’s 25 and currently sitting in prison. Do to get out at the end of this year. That was a third time being arrested since he was 18. This time he was charged with trafficking meth. The previous two times before that it was possession charges but this time he got caught with quantity. It’s hard, it’…[Read more]

    • Very hard. Im sorry to hear this. I hope this stint makes him want a different kind of life. He must want it. He must do it. Support only when he is is my best advise. Is he speaking of his future? Is he sick of being controlled by meth? Does he want to embrace a plan to change?
      Msg me anytime for support. Im an ex meth user who also had a loved…[Read more]

      • I’m having a difficult time navigating this forum. Hopefully I am replying to who I want to reply to you. Yes he is speaking of his future and wants to change. Hopefully it’s not just “jail“ talk. He seems to of found God but not really over the top with it. He wants to go to church and meetings when he gets out of jail.

        • Yup i got your reply. Ive just been so busy im just coming on now to see it. It could be jail talk but why not try to run w it. Try to help him by looking into churches and support groups he can try out. Not eveything is for everyone. He may like joining a gym ..Counciling one on one is an idea and later ill send u a link for my church that does…[Read more]

          • Thanks. We are doing just that. My father, his grandfather is the preacher so I was raised a God-fearing man. Whatever works… I’ll keep you updated. Thanks again for the reply.

            • The church i attend sees God as a loving God. I do not fear him but evil should.
              This is the church I attend. The site has a live stream and can also watch past services.
              I suggest it as i am in a younger generation that i find ignors the power and msg of the Lord because of old thinking. I mean no disrespect i just find it a more modern…[Read more]

          • Thanks. I have a lot I need to work on too .

            • Hey Octain, I hope the best for you. I’m the dad of a 20 year old who is addicted to meth and just can’t seem to find the will power to want to change and be with family again.

              Same thing with legal issues – just can’t take care of his issues. It’s hard to stay strong and sometimes I give in – but I get a little more resolve each time.

              Take care

  • Tgill1123 posted an update in the group Group logo of Loved Ones of AddictsLoved Ones of Addicts 6 months, 4 weeks ago

    I want to connect with other loved ones of addicts who understand what I go thru.

    • I’m going through it right now too. You can message me if you need to talk ❤️

    • Me too. I only go on every few days as of now, but I will always respond

    • Going trough this right now. I’ve been struggling this for the past two years, and eventually I learned how to channel the pain. If you need someone to talk to, I’ll listen.

    • I am sure it is very different when if it’s your partner who has the addiction, for me i’m the dad of a 19 yr old addict on meth. But it seems to help knowing there are more of us to help carry the load – I always have believed and I say “Pain shared is pain lessened”.

      I’m much too new to give advice – in fact I probably need all the advise I…[Read more]

    • U can be a huge help to a loved one who needs it.. But they must make the first step. I deff. Know this from experience. Its hard to let go but its the only way. Let go and let God. We are his. No one is ours. He has the power to take over and fight the demons that we just cannot. Pray and ask for help for your loved one. For yourself. He will…[Read more]

  • marisahck posted an update in the group Group logo of Loved Ones of AddictsLoved Ones of Addicts 7 months ago

    My friend who I had a short relationship type situation with just lost his ex from an overdose and it is sending him into self destruction. How do I help without overstepping my boundaries? We are still close friends, but I feel at fault for us hooking up instead of trying to help him work things out with her, but in my heart of hearts I know that…[Read more]

    • Damn, that sounds rough. Grief got me sober but for many it can do the opposite. If he decides to get sober it will be his decision and there’s little, if anything, others can say or do that will cause or prevent that decision. I think the best loved ones can do is educate themself on addiction, but it’s one of those things, the more you learn the…[Read more]

      • I feel like the best thing to do is sit back and wait for him to be ready to open up to me. I hope that maybe he will see it in that way, but I think the major issue is her family is blaming him for it and he is more than likely in the mindset “I should be the one gone not her”. It’s heartbreaking from all sides…

      • I don’t know how I’ll survive living in close proximity to my daughter as her addict boyfriend drags her into his world. His family are her new best friends and they are enablers in the extreme. They actually took him to the casino the night of graduation from a two year program for heroin and gave him alcohol and marijuana. He immediately went…[Read more]

  • raptor posted an update in the group Group logo of Loved Ones of AddictsLoved Ones of Addicts 7 months, 1 week ago

    My friend thinks he’s Goku, and that his best friend is Trump. He abused Xanax along with other substances a few months ago for a while. He tried to kill himself twice. Last months have been crazy. He went to the hospital twice and they gave him anti-depressants that do not help. This has been going on for more than five months. He acts like…[Read more]

    • I dont have experience w xanax but i think this sounds big time like hes on meth… Again i could be wrong.. But ive seen this disassociation and agression in my man when he was heavy smokin n eating meth.. I pray he finds the will to do what it takes to get clean ..sounds far gone but dont mean there is no return. . he will need to see his ways…[Read more]

  • Have a 19 yr old poly addict and using crystal meth for the past two years – thank you for the videos and the site – for a dad who is helpless to take care of this danger – it is killing me. But your videos at least give me some understanding of what is going on.

    We have been battling addiction since he was 15 – we are now at the point where he…[Read more]

    • This breaks my heart. I know this pain. I am thankful my man was able to stop but not before ruining his life as it seems your brother is doing.. We hes not doing it. Meth is doing him.. Its terribly controling. Dont be mad at ur brother. He has veen taken hostage but is unfortunately the only one who can save himself.
      I pray for your family and…[Read more]

      • Thank you for the support mishell. I send messages on his Messenger, really don’t know if he reads them. Just tell him I love him and Mom and I ( its my son) will help him when he is ready. But he’s not ready yet or able to fight back. I really don’t want him in jail, but it may be the only hope to allow him to clean up enough where he can get…[Read more]

        • Sry i may have missread that hes ur son not brother. I often read n type fast as im usually on break or busy but so dedicated to reading and responding to ppl who reach out. It helps me to talk to others who are going thru what i went thru. To offer hope and support keeps me going. I hate the grip meth has but it does usually come to a point the…[Read more]

  • I’m using this site for the first time and I have no idea what i’m doing…I hope this msg makes it somewhere. Been in a relationship with a polysubstance addict for almost ten years and he is using again, I believe. Being in recovery myself, I have to keep myself safe by severing ties. We have an 8 yo daughter together and this is the hardest thing ever.

    • I can only imagine what that’s like. Are you going to Al-Anon?

    • Awe im so sorry to hear this. I hope we get a chance to talk. I too am w someone who lost his 8 yr old son cus he couldnt stop using meth. He has stopped n got him back but its a bumpy ass road. Im at work but ill try to pm u soon k. Sending u lots of love ❤

    • Thanks y’all for the love…I haven’t attended any kind of meetings as this just recently happened (again) and my anxiety, depression & blood pressure have all been tough so doing anything like getting out of the house has been almost non-existant. I also don’t know all the details of what happened this time, so, it’s just like, I don’t know…[Read more]

      • I’m glad you’re here @wrightke1983 it’s a great place to vent and discover new solutions. As an addict in recovery, I can tell you – drugs are merely a symptom of a bigger problem that he has to face. It’s not “just stop” – I’ve had times sober where I was just as sick as I was when I was using. The problem is, this sick way of living was…[Read more]

    • So, found out he was doing meth and then heroin to come off the meth…he was completely lying to me straightfaced.

      • Its so painful. I hate this for u. And for him. Keep ur feet planted girl. Its the best chance you will all hopfully over come. I hate the hurt for u. H to come off meth is a terrifying thought. Pls keep coming here for support. Mad love for u girl 😢

    • Thank you so much! I really appreciate your support…i’m so glad I stumbled upon CG’s youtube channel that lead me to this app. I feel like he is using his recovery from the perils of addiction responsibly and effectively. I have so much respect for that. And again, thank YOU for your love and support.

    • I’m sorry I’m late to your post, but I’ve been through all this too. I’m with you. Al-Anon and Nar-Anon are really healpful. Check out some in your area or they have a great Facebook page.
      We’re here for you! Love and hugs!

  • Desi posted an update in the group Group logo of Loved Ones of AddictsLoved Ones of Addicts 8 months, 2 weeks ago

    Cg, I don’t know how to work your site too much but just would like to encourage you to keep up the good work….it’s priceless what you’re doing…..

  • Desi posted an update in the group Group logo of Loved Ones of AddictsLoved Ones of Addicts 8 months, 2 weeks ago

    So I can go to Al Anon to help me deal with my loved one? But it’s drugs not alcohol she’s addicted to……shouldn’t i be going to nar anon instead…..I’m so confused

    • It doesn’t matter at all, whichever one is closer or which one you like more if you try both.

      • Yes I need to go somewhere…Thise level of hurt is bigger than anything I’ve experienced….not even when my dad passed…the hurt of seeing your own child in trouble is indescribable….if been pretty strong all my life but THIS….This is tooo much…..

  • Anna posted an update in the group Group logo of Loved Ones of AddictsLoved Ones of Addicts 9 months, 2 weeks ago

    Hi everyone,
    as an addict myself (mainly meth and cocaine), I thought it would be beneficial to share my thoughts/feelings about help & support by a loved one:
    What I experience/feel when I come down:
    – extremely tired, terrible sleep
    – sometimes extremely hungry, sometimes not eating at all
    – pain (muscles, joints, organs, teeth)
    – burning,…[Read more]

  • mishell posted an update in the group Group logo of Loved Ones of AddictsLoved Ones of Addicts 11 months, 3 weeks ago

    After counciling he layed around helped make dinner then passed out at 7 om last night. Woke up today w a move forward addittude.. Workin out being positive.. Then says this buddy is pickin him up again today. I told him he doesn’t need my permission but since he brought it uo told him i think its not a great idea. He was a bit offended. Said i…[Read more]

    • The best thing I ever did when I was serious about getting sober and staying that way was to stop hanging out with the people I used with.

      • Yup. I tried mention that to him in my own example of doing the same and why. I know early recovery is bumpy and mistakes are learned by slipping and falling sometimes.. But lessons are only proved wrong when same mistake stops happening as often. I continue to root for him that he sees his excuses .. Hes done well but isnt out the woods. Worried…[Read more]

    • It’s rough @mishell

      • It is.. I dont know i can do it much longer. For sure not if slips become super frequent..I dont wanna give up on him.. Hes done great.. But i will love n root from afar if i have too.. Im proud that i know its ok to be selfish n do u when others arnt doing themselves..

        • He has proved me wrong a few times this past month so the faith in him is there… But ive been dooped way more times (in the past)so.. Just have to see how tonight goes

    • And that’s the hardest part. You wanna trust but you know they’ll slip. And it’s a repeating roller coaster ride with our feelings. We love our addicts and hate to them see them like this. I wish we could just reboot them and everything runs smooth. It’s not so though.

      • I did my best to bot worry bout him. He just brought me a sandwhich at work 🙂
        He knows my anxiety is up but trying to play it cool. He did ask me if i was happy i got a chance to check on him.. I said im just happy to have food, im not worried about what ur doing…
        (I was happy to see hes good) i hope hes heading home now but i didnt ask. Ill…[Read more]

        • Hes been texting me from my place. All is well.. I thank the lord for keeping him safe today 😌 goodnight diary hahaha .. See i wasnt worried at all.. Totally got codependancy in the bag . . . .
          Imagine reading my actual diaries eh? Hahhaha i got a nice stack of em that ill be turning into a book too one day for sure!

    • Morning, hope things are good with you.. Have a great day

    • It prprobably would be a best seller!

    • Ha

    • I’ve been there. It sucks. Just keep focusing on you. There are some great meetings too for those of us who love addicts. I heard someone say once that we’re just like the addicts (same stress and behaviors) but we do it with no drug. We’re addicted to addicts. I know I am anyways. Just have to focus on our recovery regardless of what the addicts…[Read more]

  • mishell posted an update in the group Group logo of Loved Ones of AddictsLoved Ones of Addicts 11 months, 3 weeks ago

    I relate to so many of you and am so lucky to have found the strength to let my ‘ex’ fall on his own and finally reach out and accept help. I have so much to say on how that happened but basically have to find your own way to let them go. I chose to find a relationship w God to help me. Everytime i let go of him and gave power to God, i found…[Read more]

    • 😉

      • He went out w his buddy last night. ‘Did a few rips’ acted like a complete prick.. Hes gone to his counciling now.. So frustrating .. He did great for almost a month.. Prior to that had been on heavy meth daily for apx10 months.. I hate drugs 🙁
        See how he chooses to go forward. Slips happen vut i think its how u go forward.. I dno hes ready to…[Read more]

  • enitaaaa posted an update in the group Group logo of Loved Ones of AddictsLoved Ones of Addicts 11 months, 3 weeks ago

    Hi friends! I’m new here and I’ve been searching for help of any kind. The closest friend that I have is addicted to meth. Though he is currently not using since he has no money or way to get it, the only thing he talks about are his plans for when he can use again. He has no plans in life except to make enough money to live off the grid and do…[Read more]

    • There’s nothing you can do that will change his mind. I’d focus on your recovery because addiction does affect loved ones.

      • How do I get to a place of being okay with the way that he’s living his life? Obviously I care very much about him and want the best for him. Do I just sit back and let him destroy his life?

    • I completely agree. Focus on you. Maybe check out your own meetings. I’ve been going for a while and it always helps me put the focus back on me. Sometimes, that’s the best we can do. Much love and many hugs!

  • Hue posted an update in the group Group logo of Loved Ones of AddictsLoved Ones of Addicts 1 year ago

    My mother’s addicted to meth. There was so much I didn’t get until I stumbled across the cg videos. I actually didn’t understand anything to be honest. I honestly don’t know what else to say , but thank you CG Kid.

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